20 Lessons To Learn In Your 20s (And Remember Forever)

much needed inspiration ^^

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I’m not even a full year into my twenties but I already feel like I have such an insight into the next ten years ahead of me. As everyone tells me, I do believe my twenties are going to be one of the best ages of my life. I can get away with being foolish and acting like a child, while still being held responsible for all the adult stuff that children haven’t learned yet. It’s a time to learn and it’s a time to realize. And naturally, I’m still working on all 20 of these.

1. Inject yourself and everyone you meet with love.

Not the friend love, the fake love, or the love just because you feel you’re obligated to return it. I’m talking about the genuine, sincere, love them so much it hurts you type of love. Love yourself and let your positive energy spread to those…

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You Are The Reason Why I Enjoy My Morning Commutes

This is a really cute read. =]

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You wear sneakers.

Not weird red ones, but black ones, with grey lining and dark heels, which blend against the black of your neatly pressed pants. You always seem to be immaculate – your shirt crisp, your tie straight, your shoes looking as new as they did two years ago. I think you really like those shoes. Maybe they’re lucky.

You like coffee. I rarely see you without a steaming cup from Starbucks in your hand while you sip it over The New York Times. I wonder if you put sugar in your coffee or if you like it black; I like my coffee with cream and two sugars, but I think I like it sweet because I’m a girl. You probably like it black. You always nod at me when you sit down – you must recognize me, as we’ve both taken the 8:30 to 16th St. Mission for…

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I no write good

“People need to be made more aware of the need to work at learning how to live because life is so quick and sometimes it goes away too quickly.” — Andy Warhol

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To those reading this surreptitiously from a laptop, or desktop given to them by the officials of their very first job, within an environment where you are constantly pressured to perform, let me ask you something:

How do you feel?

From the retrospect of being one of those individuals very recently acquainted with the toils and excitements of the work life, have you ever faced a situation where everyone in your professional life is constantly telling you ‘you can’t do this’ or ‘you think you can do this, but you really can’t’?

Have you?

Because I for one use to question the very same skills I was appreciated for in college i.e. writing.

Was I a really good as writer as I thought I was? Or was I just kidding myself?

Is my grammar that bad that I am constantly reminded that I need to work on it? And I am nothing in comparison to the superiors in the field?

Now, if I am not, am I a lost case? And if I am, is it mere career ego that’s making them push me down?

Nope. It’s neither. Because believe it or not, it’s probably the most important learning experience you will ever come across, and I would advise you to make the most of it.

How so?

It’s quite simple. I don’t doubt my skills in writing, yes my grammar may be off a couple of time, yes, my word composition may not even make sense to anyone who is not me, but I don’t have a problem with the corrections that come my way.

I will admit that it did get on my nerves at one point. People 2 or 3 years older than me probe and poke everything I do, and at times sharply point out things that weren’t mistakes to begin with, but a mere difference in choice of words. And yes, I did question my skills in writing and it did shake a better part of my individuality.

But then I realized this has to be the best way to just get better and better! All these people correct because clearly they know something more. They have been in the field longer and hence have discovered a few tips that may help you move further. So why not pick out that ‘something more’?

The trick is to absorb criticism in the right spirit. And also differentiate which pieces of criticism to take in and which ones to throw in a dark bag at the back of your mind, because you never know when the ones which weren’t applicable then, would be so in the future.

Nothing is wasted, and nothing should be. Everything you learn should be neatly sorted in folders in your head: useful, spirit enhancing, soul crushing, ground breaking, fascinating, un-heard of, sheer nonsense etc. and dealt with accordingly.

The most you can do is to make sure that if you ever do have a wide-eyed, fresh out of college person working under your guidance, you would probably not be as harsh as your superiors were at one point, towards you.

Because no one in the entire world has the power to tell you that you are not good enough. Who were they to judge you in the first place? In their eyes, you even may be a threat, or a force that surpassed their skill when they were you age.

Or you may be someone they found potential in, and they want to mold that potential in the most optimal way. Can you blame them?  

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I don’t see the point of fearing it anymore, I say go for it and explore all the opportunities it give you, and who knows? Their faith in your skills may just be the reaffirmation they needed to grow.

So I no write good, remember?

But I is wanting to write even more awesome-er.

And therefore, I shall learn.

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Walking Into Adulthood Crisis

I don’t know how most of you will be able to relate to this, but I for one am facing a… walking into adulthood crisis (WIAC). And what the heck is that?

Let me explain.

Since we were in school, we always had a step of things moving forward. Like from elementary you knew you would go to middle school, then high school and then college… and here you sit at your first job with all these individuals around you thinking, so what next?

Now don’t get me wrong. I know where I am heading with this on the work front. Like, work for a couple of years an do a post graduate degree. But… what after? Whats the point?

Why?

Whats the meaning of all this and whats my goal?

And the answer I have right now: I. Dont. Know.

And frankly? Its unnerving at times. I don’t know what I am suppose to do anymore and there are so many things running around in my head, I am unable to find a direction for myself. The mere thought of being an adult is scary at times because you realize have this clear expanse of life and you don’t know how to fill it in. What do you do? Whats the point?

Sighs.

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I know, hard truth isn’t it? One day, you are happy and cheery at  your first real job, invigorated with this whole realm of fascination and the next, you question your entire existence. Why does that even happen? You dont know. What can you do to it? Hmm….

So lets do something, I am going to write a list of things I can do to stop myself from fearing a blank life’s canvas and continue being motivated in doing what I do. That is living. 

  • Make short term goals

Achievable in nature and not something totally out of the blue. Things like, lost a few kilos (or pounds) saving up to buy this really expensive bag, that classy dress or finish that book you always wanted to read or tv show series you always wanted to see (Dr, Who for me!). So many things to keep yourself occupied with, because the last thing you want to feel is… that your life leads absolutely no where. And not like, this is going to give you the meaning of life and achieve nirvana, but… it will help you look forward to something ALL the time. And really that’s what counts the most. Small little things.

  • Make lists

Oh boy. Lists. Any kind of list, EVERY kind of list. Just write things you always wanted to do, or get, or try or something. Anything. Take a notebook, some colored pencils or glitter pens ( you know you want to use them shiny things) and write down every god damn thing you want to achieve/want/say/try/wish for. As the lists grown bigger you know that you aren’t lost at all. You have all these hopes and dreams and aspirations, and you are continuously doing something every day to achieve them. Today is just one day. Let it pass.

  • Write

Write like the world is producing too much paper and you are its only hope to use them and stop the world from turning into an over spill of paper. Ohkay, that was a horrible metaphor but you get the point. I kid you not, for me, writing has been the only constant thing in my life as the world around me changes. Change is not a bad thing but it gets you down at times knowing things will not be the same. And everyone always has a lot to think about, but not a lot of trust worthy individuals to share them with, so why not write down everything that is in your head? It will keep you calm if you are anxious, settled if you are jumpy and clear if you get all muddles up inside with all thats going around you.

  • Breathe

Thats what I am doing right now and its helping me chill the fudge out. Its normal to feel this way, I know I am feeling unsettled and anxious about the future but I also know that right now there is nothing I can do about it immediately. So, I am just breathing and letting things fall into place. Sounds so simple, doesnt it.

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That’s all I can do right now. Yes, I still feel a little vulnerable on a few fronts but that doesn’t mean I am going to hide myself from experiencing life in all its adventurous glory. Yes, we all have those days and I don’t think there is anything wrong in feeling that way once in a while. It just gives us clarity on the things we HAVE to think about. So its fine. Its perfectly fine. Lets just not make a habit out of it, otherwise it just makes you a whole lot pessimistic.

Right. So.

Hi, I am feeling a little off today and I think its perfectly normal to do so. I am now going to go home after work, make myself green tea and find a friend to talk to while sitting on a bunch of pillows and throwing a huge blanket over myself. Aaaahhhh. =]

What are you going to do? Let me know!

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6 Things You Learn When You Get Your First “Real” Job

Oh my god, its the TRUTH,

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1. “Real people” are a myth

Congratulations: you got a job, and now you’re a “real person.” You and the guy at the desk next to you who spends the whole workday fleshing out his Twitter persona. Just like when you lost your virginity, you spent the first week with a smile on your face, right until you realized that everything’s the same as it was before. This secret society of “real people,” with their salaries and their employee benefits, are just scraping by, the way you and your friends did mere months ago in school.

2. Hating your job can be productive if you make it so

Simply hating your job is for underachievers, and if you were an underachiever then you wouldn’t be here in the first place (supposedly). Instead of loafing around and Facebook chatting with your friends (who are also bored at work, and who agree…

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27 Things That Will Make Your Life Easier, Period

I love this article. Give it a read!

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1. Just respond to the email already.

2. Call your mom. Chat for five minutes, pretend that public transportation is coming/you’re walking in to work/the battery is low, then get off the phone. All she wants is to know you’re not dead — and to know that your relationship, no matter how shaky it may be, is still intact.

3. Make your bed — it makes the entire room look cleaner.

4. Write out a list by hand. Google may have invented every list-making tool on the planet, but writing it down commits it to memory — and, contrary to popular belief, not every place has internet.

5. When you get a free minute, clean out the thing nearest you, whether it’s a drawer, your gym bag, or your fridge. Just open the door, look at what is moldy, and throw it out.

6. When you get a free moment…

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